﻿<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?><rss xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" version="2.0"><channel><ttl>60</ttl><title>ASKAPHRODITEBLOG.COM</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com</link><lastBuildDate>Mon, 28 May 2012 07:42:20 GMT</lastBuildDate><pubDate>Mon, 28 May 2012 07:42:20 GMT</pubDate><language>en</language><copyright /><itunes:subtitle> </itunes:subtitle><itunes:author /><itunes:summary /><description /><itunes:owner><itunes:name /><itunes:email>info@askaphrodite.com</itunes:email></itunes:owner><itunes:explicit>no</itunes:explicit><itunes:category text="Arts" /><item><title>Reawakening Female Desire</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2012/03/13/reawakening-female-desire.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;font style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;" id="internal-source-marker_0.20526024574032753"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;There are plenty of valid reasons why women turn off sexually over time. Off the top of my head, I see:&lt;br&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Irritation with a long-term partner accumulates over time: that stuff, big and small, that gets shuffled under the rug&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Hormonal and life changes like childbirth, death of a loved one or menopause all may have an impact&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 13px; font-family: Verdana; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Never
 having experienced the incredible sensual and sexual pleasure --an 
ecstatic state or transcendent experience-- that is available to men and
 women through practicing some easy techniques.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Men,
 who are practical creatures with a high interest in sex, often ask me 
for tips on improving technique as if technique alone could re-ignite 
their partner's desire. And while an approach that is designed to slowly
 awaken female desire can create a greater level of pleasure and 
engagement for the woman they’re partnered to, but the truth is, a man 
alone can't re-ignite her desire. A woman has to want it for herself.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;There
 are several options for a woman who wants to raise her own libido. 
Bio-identical hormones and supplements can boost health, vitality and 
libido. Learning Tantra as a practice to increase intimacy with her 
partner is a wonderful tool that can offer an ecstatic union for the two
 of them. Both of these options have the potential to create real and 
blissful change, but an even more fundamental exercise that a woman can 
use, alone or to build a foundation for the other options, is to create a
 daily self pleasuring practice.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Allow
 me to clarify: self pleasuring is different from masturbation. 
Masturbation is a tool that most of us use to scratch the itch quickly 
so we can get on to some other activity. This sort of solo quickie is 
also how we women give ourselves the orgasm (usually with exclusively 
clitoral stimulation, often with a vibrator) that makes us feel "done" 
with sexual desire, at least for a time. &lt;br&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Touching,
 stimulating, arousing and caressing your body and genitals, purely for 
the pleasure of the touch and without seeking orgasm, helps re-train the
 flesh and the mind for greater potential pleasure. The focus here is on
 sensual pleasure, not on sexual release. In fact, you’ll want to stop 
or slow down the stimulation if you’re "too close" to the edge. Twice a 
day, about 15 minutes each time, will raise your awareness of your 
sexuality. If you can't fit in 15 minutes, make it three really focused,
 fully aware minutes. I use a timer so I can focus fully without 
worrying about the clock.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;As
 part of your self pleasuring practice, do Kegel (pronounced kee-guhl) 
contractions. If you do these while self pleasuring and focusing on 
sexual energy, then your body will make the connection. Just the act of 
doing Kegels alone will generate sexual feelings. See xx article for 
more on how and why to do Kegels. (Short answer: Kegels help both women 
and men to have greater sexual pleasure.)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Make
 sounds while self pleasuring and making love. Humming or murmuring for 
pleasure moves energy throughout the body. You can also use the sounds 
of pleasure when something feels good (and no sounds for stimulation you
 don't enjoy as much) as a sort of positive reinforcement "clicker 
training" for your partner.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Breathe!
 Usually when we’re highly aroused, we start breathing faster, 
hyperventilating or holding our breath. Continuing to breathe slowly and
 deeply will helps you stay more aware and present in your body.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Imagine
 moving the sexual energy up &amp;nbsp;the length of your spine and back down 
again to your genitals. This is a "fake 'til you make it" thing. Keep 
imagining it until you actually feel the energy move.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Learn
 how to find and stimulate your "Goddess spot," G-spot or female sacred 
spot. Sign up for the AskAphrodite e-newsletter to learn more about 
G-spot stimulation.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Use
 lubricant for all genital touch. You may need a lot of intense 
stimulation, including G-spot stimulation, to help you reach your 
orgasmic potential. However, “intense” should not mean"ouchy," or 
pulling on your delicate membranes. Coconut oil, or any cold-pressed 
oil, is a great choice, as are silicone lubes like Body Action Extreme 
Glide or Pjur Eros. Silicone is not absorbed by the body, so it doesn't 
dry out or feel tacky like water-based lubes do.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;ul style="margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;li style="list-style-type: disc; font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;Fantasize!
 A rich fantasy life will help to keep the fires smoldering. You don't 
have to start with rubbing sticks together every time you want to create
 a tiny spark. Need some help coming up with a fantasy other than a 
chance encounter with Antonio Banderas (or whomever lights you up)? 
Check out superblogger Violet Blue's erotica suggestions here: &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.tinynibbles.com/erotica"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 255); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;http://www.tinynibbles.com/erotica&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;
 . There are free short stories, audio books and links to purchase 
books, including "Sweet Heat: Explicit Erotica for Couples," edited by 
Violet Blue.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 12px;"&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;And, when you are feeling ready, contact me and I'll provide a safe path to more pleasure than you've ever imagined!&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p dir="ltr" style="text-indent: 36pt; margin-top: 0pt; margin-bottom: 0pt;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px; font-family: Times New Roman; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: normal; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline;"&gt;(c) 2012 askaphrodite.com&lt;br&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;br&gt;</description><category>Sexual Issues</category><category>Tantra</category><category>Treatment</category><category>Coaching</category><category>Benefits</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2012/03/13/reawakening-female-desire.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">c03fa9d7-d141-4824-900f-abd0a56d1af4</guid><pubDate>Wed, 14 Mar 2012 00:59:30 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>The Super Easy Secret to More Powerful Orgasms</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2011/08/09/secret-to-orgasm.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;b&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 16px;" face="Garamond"&gt;&lt;div class="Section1"&gt; &lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;font face="Garamond"&gt;What Is Your Pleasure Worth?&lt;/font&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;p&gt;If there were one simple way to have stronger, longer, even multiple orgasms, one way to increase sexual sensation for yourself &lt;i&gt;and &lt;/i&gt;&lt;span style="font-style: normal;"&gt;your partner, what would you invest? How about a few minutes a day? That’s all it takes to reap the blessings of Kegel exercises, or, as practitioners of Tantric sex call it, mulabanda.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;p&gt;Toning the PC (pubococcyx) muscle offers an amazing range of perks for women, but they’re not the only ones who can take advantage of Kegels.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Men who strengthen their BC (bulbocavernous) muscle can heighten their ability to become multi-orgasmic, learning to control ejaculation and separate the sensations of orgasm from ejaculation, a technique you can read about in an article entitled "&lt;a href="http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/02/extendingpleasureformen.aspx" target="" class=""&gt;Extending Pleasure for Men&lt;/a&gt;."&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/02/extendingpleasureformen.aspx"&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;For both men and women, doing Kegels simultaneously with self-pleasuring practice can create a brain connection that makes just the exercise alone a sexually stimulating activity—and one that can be done anywhere or at any time! Who wouldn’t enjoy&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;standing in line at the ATM or the grocery store a little more if they were feeling and building their sexual energy and vitality while they waited?&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;How Do You Do Kegels?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;First, you--male or female--have to find your PC (or BC) muscle. Fortunately, it’s not difficult to locate: it’s the same muscle that you contract to stop the flow of urine.&lt;span&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/span&gt;Try it the next time you’re in the bathroom. You’ll find that it feels like squeezing the anus but it’s more specifically squeezing your sex organ. As you women begin to practice, you may find that you can contract different sections of your yoni, or sacred space, the Tantric terms for the whole vulva area.&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;I first started practicing by reminding myself to do kegels every time I was stopped at a stoplight or stop sign so I’d have the red visual cue to remind me. I quickly realized how discreet an exercise it is, that no one could know what I was doing. I started doing them every time I thought about sex. As a sex educator, I think, write and talk about sex all day long. I have very toned muscles!&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;It's also possible to do a PC or BC muscle-specific workout. Some teachers recommend working out the muscle for 15 minutes --really hard-- three times a week and resting it the rest of the time. I simply practice every time I think of it and have never noticed any problems with overusing the muscle.&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;Women who are working out might consider trying an onyx egg (available at &lt;a href="http://www.lovenectar.com"&gt;www.lovenectar.com&lt;/a&gt; ) which has a string attached. To that string, attach a little bag of pebbles. Insert the egg in your yoni (pussy) and practice dropping and lifting it, varying between short contractions and extended ones. You may want to put a little lubricant on it. Any cold pressed oil (like coconut oil, which is solid and melts at body temperature is great!) or a silicone lubricant like Pjur Eros or Body Action Extreme Glide, will work well. &lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;I recommend doing short repetitions, about 10 in a row, contracting and releasing rapidly, and then a single long contraction while holding the breath before repeating the set. There are several variations of this exercise, each with different breathing practices designed to build energy or promote relaxation.&lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;Men can perform kegels either while erect or flaccid. If you practice while erect, try putting a washcloth on your penis and lifting upward. Eventually, you may work up to wet towel lifts. This is a handy trick to master! During intercourse, you can use your cock to tap a woman's G-spot. Contracting this muscle also helps to control or delay ejaculation more effectively. &lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;Remember you can squeeze that muscle any time you think about it. No one will know but you. Keep at it, and you'll be singing a new orgasmic tune in no time! &lt;/p&gt;  &lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: Garamond;"&gt;(c) 2006-2011 AskAphrodite&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt; &lt;/div&gt; &lt;span style="font-size: 12pt;"&gt;&lt;br style="page-break-before: always;" clear="ALL"&gt; &lt;/span&gt; &lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/font&gt;</description><category>Tantra</category><category>Tools and Toys</category><category>Coaching</category><category>Benefits</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2011/08/09/secret-to-orgasm.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">c6594cdd-e6ad-4667-8a66-e6594bd7fc2a</guid><pubDate>Tue, 09 Aug 2011 14:52:49 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Tantric Sensuality with Shakti and Andrea</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2011/03/27/tantric-massage-with-shakti.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;Shakti Shen travels to to join &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/aboutus.asp" target="_blank" class=""&gt;Andrea&lt;/a&gt;  of &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com" target="" class=""&gt;AskAphrodite.com&lt;/a&gt;  in beautiful locations to offer extraordinary sensual experiences for the discerning disciple of Tantric Pleasure, including:&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;* &lt;b&gt;&lt;font color="#ff0000"&gt;The Sultan's Vacation&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/b&gt; -- Indulge in an array of sensual pleasures over a full, rich day or several days in beautiful, tranquil locations. Eat, drink, dine, dance, sing, soak in soothing waters while receiving the intense focus of two incredible Tantricas. The Sultan/Sultana or Couple who chooses this experience will walk away not only with a once-in-a-lifetime Tantra experience but will also have the unique opportunity to learn from experts how to give absolute pleasure to a willing goddess. Length of session: Three hours to several days. Pricing: Custom-designed to your budget&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;* &lt;b&gt;&lt;font color="#ff0000"&gt;Mini-Workshop&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/b&gt; -- Learn from two expert sensualists how to touch, stroke and stoke desire. Learning has never been this much fun! The smart student of sensuality who chooses the mini-workshop option will also learn by receiving the kind of touch that will drive your partner wild. Length of session: Two - four hours; Pricing: $500 per hour&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;* &lt;b&gt;&lt;font color="#ff0000"&gt;Four Hand Massage &lt;/font&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;-- Enjoy the pleasure of being the sole focus as skilled hands soothe away your cares and carry you to the edge of the edge &lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;for one or more delicious hours. Minimum length of session: One Hour at $500 for two skilled, warm, willing and loving Tantricas Maximum Length...How much pleasure can you enjoy?&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;***&lt;br&gt;&lt;font color="#366092"&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;" face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 20px;"&gt;About Shakti&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt; Shen&lt;br&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;" color="#000000"&gt;View video below&lt;/font&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;div align="right"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;img src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/9/2/8/5/3/245519-235829/shaktiface.jpg?a=92" style="border: 0px solid;"&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;font color="#000000"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font face="Georgia"&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 12pt;" color="#660066" face="Georgia,'Times New Roman',Times,serif"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Shakti Shen&lt;/b&gt;&amp;nbsp;is a National Tantra Teacher. She teaches tantra in various &lt;font&gt;healing&lt;/font&gt;
 centers across America. She brings a spirit of freedom from practicing 
Tantra for 30 years. Shakti has developed Ecstatic Touch Kundalini 
Bodywork from her decades of study in the fusion of therapeutic and 
Tantric bodywork styles, and she brings this unique ecstatic art to life
 with her poetic and passionate teaching style. &lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;div&gt;


&lt;font style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;font style="font-size: 12pt;" color="#660066" face="Georgia,'Times New Roman',Times,serif"&gt;Shakti's
 personal bodywork style integrates the ecstatic kundalini life force 
current with &amp;nbsp;metaphysical touching to initiate new levels of capacity 
for pleasure, depth and spiritual integration. In addition, all of these techniques have proven value for addressing &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/services.asp" target="" class=""&gt;sexual issues&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;You can view a video of Shakti talking about teaching Taoist Erotic Tantric Massage here: &lt;a href="http://www.lovejourneytantra.com/taoist_massage.htm" target="_blank" class=""&gt;http://www.lovejourneytantra.com/taoist_massage.htm&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;**&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Contact &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/contact.asp" target="_blank" class=""&gt;askaphrodite.com&lt;/a&gt;  to book sessions with Shakti at 805-904-5051 or by &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/contact.asp" target="_blank" class=""&gt;email&lt;/a&gt;. Appointments are available in Miami, Florida, Santa Barbara, Avila Beach or the Bay Area of California. Or, we will travel to your location! Read more about our practice of Tantra at &lt;a href="http://www.erosguide.com/" target="" class=""&gt;www.erosguide.com&lt;/a&gt; &lt;br&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;br&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt;</description><category>Sexual Issues</category><category>Tantra</category><category>Treatment</category><category>Benefits</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2011/03/27/tantric-massage-with-shakti.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">1da2ab21-fcd0-4932-a683-df928a4dfc8e</guid><pubDate>Sun, 27 Mar 2011 09:20:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>"Toys for More Joy for Women, Men and Couples"</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2011/03/01/toys-for-more-joy-for-women-men-and-couples.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;font size="4"&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;I remember when I first started my journey to learn about my body and its capacity for pleasure, I was tremendously uptight.&amp;nbsp;&lt;font&gt;&lt;font size="4"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt; I 
didn't talk about sex with my friends even though I was really curious 
to know what they did and whether I was "doing it right."&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/font&gt; &lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I was mute during sex because I didn't want anyone to be aware that I ever had sex. I hid my one tiny orange vibrator because I was horrified to think that anyone might learn that I owned one. Now, I own so many different kinds of toys (in order to test them all so I can recommend the ones worth the money), my teenage twins insist I put them away before their friends come over!&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;I've come a long way in accepting my body and its desires. It's my deepest desire to give women and couples the opportunity to do the same.&lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;Back when I was starting my journey of exploration, I wished for an 
experienced friend to guide me and for opportunities to watch others. I didn't want to feel pressure to talk or to do anything until I felt ready. And, I really wanted to feel safe while I 
explored.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;




&lt;br style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;That's
 the vision behind the creation of Aphrodite's Playground, a place for 
sensual, adventurous, playful people --singles and couples-- to gather 
without any pressure to perform. By now, I have discovered a tribe of 
people who play like dolphins surfing the waves, enjoying the energy of 
having others around. We'd like you to join us for an evening of safe 
exploration and adventure.&lt;div&gt;


&lt;br&gt;We've designed a special introductory event to allow you --newcomer 
or experienced player-- to dip your toes in the inviting, yet sometimes 
scary waters, of sensuality under the watchful gaze of your swimming 
instructor, the event's facilitator, Andrea of &lt;a rel="nofollow" href="http://askaphrodite.com/" target="_blank"&gt;askaphrodite.com&lt;/a&gt;. &lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;


&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;div&gt;&lt;br clear="all"&gt;

&lt;br&gt;&lt;font size="4"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;The 
next event, titled &lt;span style="color: rgb(255, 0, 0);"&gt;"Toys for More Joy for Women, Men and Couples"&lt;/span&gt; takes 
place Sat., March 5 from 7:15 to 8:15 pm in Santa Barbara.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;
&lt;br style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: times new roman,serif;"&gt;&lt;div&gt;When: Sat., March 5&amp;nbsp; &lt;br&gt;Times:


 7:15 PM - 8:15 PM ("Show &amp;amp; Tell, an interactive lecture so bring 
your toys if you are willing); Please arrive by 7:15 pm as we
 will start promptly at 7:30. No nudity or explicit sexuality during 
this portion of the evening. &lt;br&gt;&lt;br&gt;It's only $5 per person and one hour of your time...with no pressure to do anything except gather your courage and show up. Call 805-904-5051 or write to info@askaphrodite.com if you'd like to know more about the event or schedule an appointment for private consultation.&lt;br&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/font&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><category>Workshops</category><category>Coaching</category><category>Tools and Toys</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2011/03/01/toys-for-more-joy-for-women-men-and-couples.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">db2ea2f0-539d-4e17-8760-53b0ecd981fe</guid><pubDate>Tue, 01 Mar 2011 18:08:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Easy Ways to Expand Your Pleasure for Men: Workshop &amp; Private Sessions Available</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/30/expandyourpleasureformen.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;span style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;Guys, is it time to stop saying, "It's NEVER happened before" or "I was too excited..."? &lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Maybe you just would like to expand your pleasure? More pleasure than you've ever imagined is available to you by learning some easy practices.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
You will learn some easy techniques to address your concern --whether&amp;nbsp; your issue is that you reach a peak too quickly, have encountered challenges in getting and maintaining erections, suffer from low libido or difficulty in reaching orgasm, or simply a desire for MORE PLEASURE.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
As a Santa Barbara resident and woman with over dozen years' experience, &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/aboutus.asp"&gt;Andrea&lt;/a&gt;  of &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com"&gt;askaphrodite.com &lt;/a&gt;understands your need for compassion, confidentiality and MORE PLEASURE.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
So, set aside your embarrassment and call today for a free 20 minute phone consultation. 805-904-505&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;When:&lt;/strong&gt; Private sessions available&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;What:&lt;/strong&gt; Learn to:&lt;br /&gt;
* Activate your sexual energy&lt;br /&gt;
* Relax and use your sexual energy as you choose&lt;br /&gt;
* Experience more pleasure than ever imagined&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;How:&lt;/strong&gt; One to one private coaching sessions&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;Where:&lt;/strong&gt; AskAphrodite studio in downtown Santa Barbara&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;Who:&lt;/strong&gt; Women, men and couples&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;strong&gt;How Much:&lt;/strong&gt; $350 for introductory 90 minute session. Discounts for series. We accept Visa, Mastercard, cash or local checks.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Take the first step and email Info@askaphrodite.com
or call 805-904-5051!&lt;/span&gt;</description><category>Sexual Issues</category><category>Workshops</category><category>Treatment</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/30/expandyourpleasureformen.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">5ddd6805-4de1-49bd-a30e-e77be3ef4737</guid><pubDate>Thu, 30 Sep 2010 19:58:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Top Five Tips for Dependable Pleasure (Regardless of Age and Even After Prostate Surgery)</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/05/treatmentforimpotence.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Ted, a 65-year-old client said to me, "I don't feel any differently on the inside. When I walk past a store window and see this old guy with gray hair and wrinkles looking back, it still shocks me." Then, he chuckled, "Of course, not all the parts work the same as they when I was at my peak."&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I know what he means because I've heard a similar complaint from others who have come to me to learn how to continue to enjoy sensual and sexual pleasure. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Remember when you were ateenager and a slight breeze would cause a stirring in your shorts? You may have been embarrassed from time to time about erections showing up at awkward moments. In fact,when you were young, you may have worried about finishing too quickly to satisfy your partner.  (If you suffer now from concernsabout reaching orgasm too quickly, take a look at this article, &lt;a href="http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/02/extendingpleasureformen.aspx"&gt;Extending Your Pleasure for Men&lt;/a&gt;.) But, when you were young, you also enjoyed a shorter refractory or resting period, the time between ejaculation and a next erection, probably because your levels of testosterone were higher. &lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
Speaking of testosterone, when a new client approaches me wanting to know about how to assure that he can continue to get erections, I suggest that he complete a simple saliva test to look at hormone levels, particularly testosterone. With the test results, his doctor can prescribe a testosterone cream, which when used in conjunction with the exercises below, will greatly improve his performance. Clients also ask about Viagra and Cialis, and I suggest that there is nothing wrong with using them for a boost. Unfortunately, those magic blue pills will only help maintain an erection. They won't help you get an erection without stimulation and possessing vital sexual energy.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;There are some very easy things you can do --daily-- to increase your pleasure and reinvigorate your body and boost your amount of sexual energy or vitality. In fact, I recommend that men of all ages begin these easy practices to train their bodies so they can remain vital and healthy for as long as possible. One client who is now in his mid-70s, Ron, has been practicing these techniques since he was in his 20s and is still able to make love with his partner for hours and remain hard for most of that time. (Erections typically rise and fall --and rise again-- during long lovemaking sessions. This is entirely normal.) The exercises don't take a lot of time, can be integrated into your daily life and being able to enjoy pleasure and intimacy is worth it, right? So, here goes for the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Top Five Tips for Dependable Pleasure (Regardless of Age and Even After Prostate Surgery)&lt;/span&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Practice self pleasuring which is different from masturbation. Masturbation is how most of us scratch the itch quickly so we can get on to some other activity. Instead, consider it a daily practice without the goal of orgasm, merely for the purpose of arousal to keep the fire of your sexual energy stoked. That way, it takes a smaller spark to bring it to life for lovemaking with your partner. Try touching, stimulating, arousing and caressing our bodies and genitals purely for the pleasure of the touch without seeking orgasm and, in fact, stopping or slowing down the stimulation if we are "too close" to the edge. The great thing about going repeatedly to the edge without ejaculatory orgasm is that orgasms tend to be much more intense when you do ejaculate. And, in fact, if you practice enough, you can actually train your body to experience the sensations of orgasm without ejaculation, which is what can help you to extend your pleasure, and many men will also experience multiple and full body orgasms Now, some men complain that they don't enjoy masturbation, and to that I respond, "Tough! If you are not willing to spend some effort training your body, why would your partner want to spend her time on you?" And, it's likely that if you are successful in using some of these techniques, you may interest her in helping you to raise sexual energy more often.&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Do kegels. You may have heard of kegels as the exercise women are told to do before and after childbirth. Both men and women should do kegels for all of their lives because strong sexual muscles provide stronger orgasms and more sexual energy. To locate the muscle, stop the flow of urine the next time you are peeing. It's sort of like squeezing the anus, but instead, you focus on the sex organ. Do a series of short contractions and then squeeze, hold as long as you are able and then release. Since no one can tell you are doing them, do them frequently whenever you're waiting in line, when you see any kind of street sign. In fact, while driving, do kegels and combine it with a hip thrust to unlock your hips and sexual energy.&lt;br /&gt;
    &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Breathe and visualize your energy. Usually when we are highly aroused, we start breathing faster, even hyperventilating. But, if you consciously slow down your breathing, you'll feel more centered so that you can visualize moving your sexual energy up your spine to the top of your head and then back down again to your penis. This visualizing your energy thing is a little "woo woo" for a lot of people, but give it a try. Fake it 'til you make it, because you can actually create sensation throughout your body simply by imagining it.&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Combine all of these together in daily practice twice a day for at least 15 minutes. And, if you are truly determined, you will work longer at it than that. One man engaged three times daily in self pleasuring often for 30 minutes at a time and, now, at 58, he is able to get an erection whenever he wants and have intercourse for as long as he wants. A tool that has helped some men after recovering from a stroke or surgery is a penis pump. You can order a super-duper $500 pump from Timm Medical called "&lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002MC1TSG?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;tag=wwwaskaphrodi-20&amp;amp;linkCode=as2&amp;amp;camp=1789&amp;amp;creative=9325&amp;amp;creativeASIN=B002MC1TSG"&gt;Erec-Aid&lt;/a&gt; ," or the down-scaled &lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000RBI6Y4?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;tag=wwwaskaphrodi-20&amp;amp;linkCode=as2&amp;amp;camp=1789&amp;amp;creative=9325&amp;amp;creativeASIN=B000RBI6Y4" target="_blank"&gt;$170&lt;/a&gt; version, but the key in either case is your willingness to put the time in. So, why not get started right now with the tool you have in hand, your hand and some good lubricant? Or, for a different sensation, try the &lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026P3PH2?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;tag=wwwaskaphrodi-20&amp;amp;linkCode=as2&amp;amp;camp=1789&amp;amp;creative=9325&amp;amp;creativeASIN=B0026P3PH2"&gt;Fleshlight Stamina Training System&lt;/a&gt; accompanied by a little porn to get you started...&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Expand your idea of sex. Sensual and sexual pleasure can be found in lots of ways besides intercourse. Just because intercourse defined sex for you back in the days when you merely fantasized about it does not mean that intercourse is the only way to enjoy sexual pleasure. Perhaps we need to change our idea of how we get pleasure. &lt;span style="font-family: tahoma;"&gt;To get an idea of how many possibilities there are for erotic stimulation, check out &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.humansexmap.com/" target="_blank"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: tahoma;"&gt;The Human Sex Map.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: tahoma;"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;Not many people know that even if a man can not get a strong erection (particularly after prostate surgery, a prostatectomy), he can still have an orgasm with proper stimulation. &lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Both women and men can learn how to touch to give and receive pleasure and learning to enjoy sensual touch is less stressful &lt;span style="font-family: tahoma;"&gt;than other activities, which&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt; is why one of the principle techniques I coach men, women and couples to use is touch, providing sensual stimulation with the hands and other body parts. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;To find your path to more pleasure, contact &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;askaphrodite.com&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
    &lt;br /&gt;
    &lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;(c) 2010 &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;askaphrodite.com&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
    &lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;</description><category>Sexual Issues</category><category>Treatment</category><category>Coaching</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/05/treatmentforimpotence.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">9042edfb-fd06-44d6-ac4c-ea65536e8761</guid><pubDate>Sun, 05 Sep 2010 08:00:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>Top Five Tips for Extending Your Pleasure So You Can Go as Long as You Like</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/02/extendingpleasureformen.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;One of the many things I admire about men is their drive toward efficiency. "No wasted time!" seems to be a common motto when it comes to pleasure, too. And, in their desire to get to good stuff as quickly as possible, that's how they train their bodies to respond. But, just as they've effectively trained their bodies to get to the finish line in three minutes or less, they can train their bodies to extend the pleasure. One young fellow asked me, "Aren't there times that even a guy who isn't always a 'quick squirt,' can come really fast when he's superexcited?"&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
I replied, "For pretty much every guy, there's a time early on in lovemaking when it's easy to come right away. But, usually, if you slow down or stop the stimulation, you can get past it and cruise on into a 'safe zone' where you can enjoy pretty intense stimulation for quite a long while."&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
That's the short answer. The long answer is that it take practice to steer yourself consistently into that safe zone. Following are some of the Top Tips I've picked up over the years to help you extend your pleasure (and your partners).&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;
&lt;ol&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Practice self pleasuring which is different from masturbation. Masturbation is how most of us scratch the itch quickly so we can get on to some other activity. This kind of quickie masturbation is also how we train our bodies to reach orgasm quickly. So, to re-train our bodies, try touching, stimulating, arousing and caressing our bodies and genitals purely for the pleasure of the touch without seeking orgasm and, in fact, stopping or slowing down the stimulation if we are "too close" to the edge. I recommend using your hand but for a different sensation, you might try the &lt;a target="_blank" href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0026P3PH2?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;tag=wwwaskaphrodi-20&amp;amp;linkCode=as2&amp;amp;camp=1789&amp;amp;creative=9325&amp;amp;creativeASIN=B0026P3PH2"&gt;Fleshlight Stamina Training System&lt;/a&gt; .&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Get to the edge and back down. The edge --on a scale of one to 10-- is 8.5 or 9 if 10 is where you'll explode. So, bring your body right up there to that edge and then back it down, raise the energy up again, up and down. If you ejaculate, make it a good one! There is nothing wrong with going for an orgasm, or having one catch you by surprise, but the ejaculatory orgasm will be more intense the more times you bring yourself to that edge.&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Breathe. Usually when we are highly aroused, we start breathing faster even hyperventilating. But, if you consciously slow down your breathing, you'll feel more centered rather than right on the edge, ready to fall off the cliff before you are ready.&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Take a pee break. No, I'm not kidding. One doctor I spoke to suggested that pressure from the bladder can make a man feel the urge to ejaculate more strongly. In any case, if you get up out of bed, walk to the bathroom and pee, the break from lovemaking will probably help you to back down from the edge. At least pee before you start!&lt;/span&gt; &lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 14px; font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Communicate with your partner about this practice before lovemaking so she will understand why you are slowing down or stopping those wildly exciting strokes. A good thing to say is, "I want to be able to give you as much pleasure as you can possibly tolerate so I'm working on riding the edge of pleasure for myself, too." And, you might ask her to lend a hand for your self pleasuring practice.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ol&gt;
&lt;span style="font-size: 14px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: tahoma;"&gt;Then, practice, practice, practice! Look online for a well-done video called "&lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0009VGIL0?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;tag=wwwaskaphrodi-20&amp;amp;linkCode=as2&amp;amp;camp=1789&amp;amp;creative=9325&amp;amp;creativeASIN=B0009VGIL0"&gt;Fire on the Mountain," &lt;/a&gt;which demonstrates a variety of hand strokes (VIEWER ADVISORY: some heterosexual couples may be uncomfortable watching the demonstration by a gay male couple) or contact &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/contact.asp"&gt;askaphrodite.com&lt;/a&gt; to set up an appointment for a personal consultation on how you can learn to extend your pleasure.&lt;br /&gt;
&amp;nbsp;&lt;br /&gt;
Additional tips will follow in an article on "Enjoying Full Body and Multiple Orgasms for Men."&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;img alt="" src="http://images.quickblogcast.com/9/2/8/5/3/245519-235829/51kHRqzKpcL_SL500AA300.jpg?a=58" style="border: 0px solid;" /&gt;(c) 2010 &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com"&gt;askaphrodite.com&lt;/a&gt;</description><category>Sexual Issues</category><category>Coaching</category><category>Benefits</category><comments>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/02/extendingpleasureformen.aspx#Comments</comments><guid isPermaLink="false">1ff50756-5071-4066-9173-a97e64fb985d</guid><pubDate>Fri, 03 Sep 2010 05:46:00 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title>What is Tantra? What can Tantra do for me?</title><link>http://askaphroditeblog.com/2010/09/02/whatistantra.aspx?ref=rss</link><dc:creator>askaphroditeblog.com</dc:creator><description>&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;The &lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: 16px;"&gt;word &lt;/span&gt;“Tantra”may
trigger images of yoga, kinky sexual positions or breathing exercises.
Maybe you read somewhere the musician Sting talking about how he can
make love with his wife for hours. Or, you may have heard that Tantra is
about men not reaching orgasm. And, you may wonder, “Why would I want
to do that?”&lt;/span&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;Good question! Why would anyone want to deny pleasure?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;Well, let me
first de-bunk the myth that Tantra is about denying pleasure. Infact,
Tantra --as I teach and practice it-- serves to expand sensualand sexual
pleasure.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;For individuals and couples, Tantra offers:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;ul&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Intimacy&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Passion&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Energy&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; Ecstasy (without drugs!)&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
    &lt;li&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; An opportunity to heal sexual, spiritual and emotional issues.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;/ul&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;After studying
and practicing Tantra for a dozen years, I describe it as practice of
meditation, a way to "be here now." Totally alive and in the moment!&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;What attracted me initially to Tantra is that, in order to practice, you &lt;span style="text-decoration: underline;"&gt;don't&lt;/span&gt;
have to deny the body or sensual pleasure. No sitting for hours on end
with your legs crossed, not moving , watching your breath go in and
out.I’ve tried that kind of meditation and find it very challenging.
And,yet, I know that I --like most people-- need to slow down, clear my
mind and refresh my spirit. That need attracted me to Tantra.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;In Tantric
practice, you may engage in "sensate focus," paying attention to
sensation and pleasure in the body while in a relaxed state. To get the
picture, imagine yourself lying down, eyes closed, in a comfortable,
safe space, letting go of clocks and time and having no goal but to pay
attention to sensations in your body. The Tantrica (practitioner of
Tantra, sometimes called a "dakini") serves as your guide, leading you
on a journeyto pleasure. At points on the journey, you might inhale
pleasant scents,feel a soft caress, sense energy moving throughout your
body or taste something divine.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;Sound sort of “woo-woo” to you?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;Yes,I laugh at
this description, too. I’m a practical person, and I need to have things
proven to me. Thus, I never push accepting Tantric beliefs or
practices. Instead, I ask only that you choose to be a little curious
and try it out to see if it's for you. I mean, how bad could it be to
give your body, mind and spirit a chance to slow down, relax and not
have to do anything –you don’t have to perform or respond in any
particular way. The only thing you need to do is pay attention to
pleasurable sensations.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;That’s it? Just relax, pay attention and enjoy?&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;Yep,the word
Tantra actually translates as “weaving together” so privates essions are
designed to give you an experience of Tantric meditation, weaving
together sensory delights and exploration.Later, you may decide to go
further and deepen your practice by learning more techniques. But, the
introductory session is guaranteed to be pleasurable, enlightening and
rejuvenating to body, mind and spirit. And you just might learn
something about how to enjoy more pleasure!&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;Clients have said:&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;"&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;My
first session was incredible! I experienced tingling throughout my
entire body and sensations totally out of this world. Can't wait for my
next visit!" --Gary from Nipomo&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;"&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;I've
told all my girlfriends about you. They need to stop being so afraid of
something new and call you up. Right now!" --Carol from Santa Barbara&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;In other articles in this blog on “What to Expect in Your First Session,” “Expanding Your Pleasure,” &lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;“&lt;/span&gt;What
Does This Fabulous Thing Called Tantra Cost?” and “Tantric Daily
Practices,” I’ll explore what delights await you by picking up the phone
or emailing to make an appointment. Just to give you a hint...what made
me schedule my first session was the possibility ofreaching an ecstatic
state --pure pleasure-- beyond anything I'd ever experienced.&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span style="font-family: garamond; font-size: 16px;"&gt;© 2010 Andrea for &lt;a href="http://www.askaphrodite.com/"&gt;www.askaphrodite.com&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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Warmly,&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;br /&gt;
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