Top Five Tips for Extending Your Pleasure So You Can Go as Long as You Like

One of the many things I admire about men is their drive toward efficiency. "No wasted time!" seems to be a common motto when it comes to pleasure, too. And, in their desire to get to good stuff as quickly as possible, that's how they train their bodies to respond. But, just as they've effectively trained their bodies to get to the finish line in three minutes or less, they can train their bodies to extend the pleasure. One young fellow asked me, "Aren't there times that even a guy who isn't always a 'quick squirt,' can come really fast when he's superexcited?"

I replied, "For pretty much every guy, there's a time early on in lovemaking when it's easy to come right away. But, usually, if you slow down or stop the stimulation, you can get past it and cruise on into a 'safe zone' where you can enjoy pretty intense stimulation for quite a long while."

That's the short answer. The long answer is that it take practice to steer yourself consistently into that safe zone. Following are some of the Top Tips I've picked up over the years to help you extend your pleasure (and your partners).
  1. Practice self pleasuring which is different from masturbation. Masturbation is how most of us scratch the itch quickly so we can get on to some other activity. This kind of quickie masturbation is also how we train our bodies to reach orgasm quickly. So, to re-train our bodies, try touching, stimulating, arousing and caressing our bodies and genitals purely for the pleasure of the touch without seeking orgasm and, in fact, stopping or slowing down the stimulation if we are "too close" to the edge. I recommend using your hand but for a different sensation, you might try the Fleshlight Stamina Training System .
  2. Get to the edge and back down. The edge --on a scale of one to 10-- is 8.5 or 9 if 10 is where you'll explode. So, bring your body right up there to that edge and then back it down, raise the energy up again, up and down. If you ejaculate, make it a good one! There is nothing wrong with going for an orgasm, or having one catch you by surprise, but the ejaculatory orgasm will be more intense the more times you bring yourself to that edge.
  3. Breathe. Usually when we are highly aroused, we start breathing faster even hyperventilating. But, if you consciously slow down your breathing, you'll feel more centered rather than right on the edge, ready to fall off the cliff before you are ready.
  4. Take a pee break. No, I'm not kidding. One doctor I spoke to suggested that pressure from the bladder can make a man feel the urge to ejaculate more strongly. In any case, if you get up out of bed, walk to the bathroom and pee, the break from lovemaking will probably help you to back down from the edge. At least pee before you start!
  5. Communicate with your partner about this practice before lovemaking so she will understand why you are slowing down or stopping those wildly exciting strokes. A good thing to say is, "I want to be able to give you as much pleasure as you can possibly tolerate so I'm working on riding the edge of pleasure for myself, too." And, you might ask her to lend a hand for your self pleasuring practice.
Then, practice, practice, practice! Look online for a well-done video called "Fire on the Mountain," which demonstrates a variety of hand strokes (VIEWER ADVISORY: some heterosexual couples may be uncomfortable watching the demonstration by a gay male couple) or contact askaphrodite.com to set up an appointment for a personal consultation on how you can learn to extend your pleasure.
 
Additional tips will follow in an article on "Enjoying Full Body and Multiple Orgasms for Men."
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Posted by askaphroditeblog.com at 9/2/2010 9:46 PM
Categories: Sexual Issues, Coaching, Benefits
Tags: daily practice tantra premature ejaculation
 

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